When I was beating on the concrete wall in the waiting area of Beaufort Memorial Hospital, neither Curt nor I had any idea of how our lives would change 11 hours into the future. We had read all the books, attended all the classes we were instructed to attend, but that in no way prepared us what it took to be real parents. I will start this blog by saying I’m not here to tell you how to be a GOOD parent or the RIGHT things to do. I’m here to share my experiences of being a REAL mom. I’ve entitled this blog Dirty Diapers because this will be the place that I‘ll be airing my dirty diapers, instead of dirty laundry. I plan to share my experiences as a busy, working mom in hopes that I’m not the only one going through these things.
I’m not an expert on anything - so don’t ever take any of this as gospel. I’m just a real mom struggling with how to do that one job that never came with an accurate description. No parent is perfect – especially me - we’re going to make mistakes, and we won’t love being a parent every minute of every day and that’s ok.
My hubby and I considered ourselves to be fairly successful business people who had our lives in the best order we could, we were anxiously ready to add a member to our family. During the 2 years and 9 months it took us to be blessed with our little man, we read all the parenting books we could get our hands on and talked to all of our friends with little ones – making mental notes of their trade secrets and filing them away in the parent portion of our brains.
As much as I valued their advice and all the words of wisdom I received, nothing prepared me for those first few months of parenthood – nothing – mainly because those friends didn’t experience all the things I did so they had no frame of reference. That’s why I’m here for you now. If you’re an expectant mom or dad – I might be able to shed light on a few subjects. If you already have kids, I’m hoping you can emphathize with some of my past and current situations, maybe even take a deep breath and say, “well, it would’ve been nice to know that someone else went through that too.” I’m here to say – they did, but never shared it with you until now.
So, sit back, have some juice and goldfish and enjoy.